We failed last night in our attempts to choose a movie to watch. You would think this is a simple thing, but it is never easy for my wife and me.
There are literally thousands of movies at our fingertips every time we attempt to choose a movie to watch, but still we can’t decide.
There is Netflix, iTunes, movies on TV and even the theatre if we want something brand new.
That doesn’t make it easier.
I don’t think there has ever been a time in our marriage where we both said, “Let’s see THIS movie.”
I don’t mean saying it at the exact same time, like a “punch buggy” thing; I mean both having the idea to watch the same movie.
We are diametrically opposed to each other when it comes to movies.
I like action adventure; Lily likes romance, and romantic comedy.
Do you know how few romantic action adventure movies there are? Someone could make a killing if they could produce more of these kinds of movies!
But having said all that, for Lily the action part really detracts from the thing she likes most in romantic movies.
I think the issue is how we approach movies in the first place.
I view movies more as an outside observer. My approach is more like I’m doing a ride along with the main character. I’m there with him, and I observe all the narrow escapes and harrowing feats, the bullets, explosions, yada, yada yada … but it’s not happening to me.
Lily, on the other hand, watches movies more like she’s in them.
There’s a new movie in the theatres right now called, “Jumanji”. I haven’t seen it yet because it’s an action adventure. From what I’ve seen in the trailers, the main characters get sucked into a video game and actually become the characters in the video game.
That’s how Lily watches movies. So when she’s watching some romantic movie with a particularly sensitive scene where the guy is saying something very touching to the girl of his dreams, when I chime in with some funny comment or mimic the line in a whiny voice, I’m not just mocking the movie, I’m actually mocking Lily.
She acts as if I’m saying that stuff to her and not the character in the movie … I think.
That’s why when she watches an action adventure movie, every explosion, every punch, she’s taking it on the chin.
When those movies are over, she’s tired because it’s like she just climbed up the side of a mountain, or parachuted behind enemy lines, or had to fight off some 7 foot, 350 pound guy.
That kind of thing can really drain you.
The other day I snuck up on her in the kitchen, and it scared her half to death. She said she lost three years off her life.
I hope those were just movie years and not real life years … although to her it’s all the same.
Here’s the thing: I don’t always understand how my wife thinks, or why she reacts in certain ways, but I do know that she loves me very much. The same is true with God. You may not understand why He answered your prayer that way, or didn’t seem to answer it at all. You may not understand why He allows some things to happen or unfold as they do. But one thing you can be certain of is that He loves you more than anything else. That is why He sent Jesus, His Son, to die in your place for the things you’ve done wrong. Be sure you’ve received His love by accepting His Son.
Question: How do you handle not understanding someone? Leave your comments below.